Sometimes, unconsciously, we believe we do not deserve the wonderful things in what happens to us, so we tend to sabotage ourselves by procrastinating, making excuses, not finishing what we start, and so on… the list can keep growing. These are just some of the names we give to the different ways we sabotage our own success; in other words, the “fear of success”.
Have you ever wanted something so much that, when you finally have it, you don’t know what to do with it?
It is like that present you wanted so badly as a child that, when you finally got it, you didn’t play with it, or played with it very little, for fear of breaking it. You wouldn’t let anyone touch it or play with it; your happiness was reduced to gazing at it. Yes, you sabotaged your own happiness.
Have you seen that meme on social media where the most insecure boy in the class asks the most popular girl if she wants to go out with him? And when she says yes and asks where they will go, he replies: I don’t know, I didn’t think I would get this far. He is sabotaging himself. These are clear signs of the fear of success.
Recently I heard: “We have to focus on the outcome, not the journey.” This is a good tool for visualising success and recognising it as soon as it knocks on our door.
This visualisation training is as important as physical training for professional and elite athletes. They visualise the performance but focus on the successful finish. This gives them so much confidence that, during the race, fear disappears and is replaced by that winning feeling they practised beforehand.
That is how life works: when you ask the universe for something with all the strength of your heart, imagine that you already hold it in your hands, that you are already enjoying it; revisit the feeling of joy that fills you when you achieve it. Believe that you DO deserve it; it is not a matter of luck. It is yours, it is what you wished for, it is what you deserve.
There is a popular saying: “What God gives someone, Saint Peter blesses,” and that applies to everything. Ask with the certainty that you will receive, visualise it; don’t wait for success to arrive before planning what to do with it. Feel it, live it, believe it; this applies to material possessions, professional aspirations and personal relationships alike.
Train both your mind and your heart for success, and once you achieve it, even if your conscious mind is overflowing with excitement and doesn’t know what to do, your subconscious will know that it is simply a consequence of all the work and effort you put into achieving it.
“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.”
Henry Ford.